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Symptoms from Las Vegas shooting are to be expected

Las Vegas shooting ribbon from Route 91 webpageWe are getting lots of calls from people who are feeling affected by being present at the Las Vegas shooting tragedy.  I thought it would be helpful to post here about symptoms that may be present, and what to look for that may mean extra help or support is needed.

After a traumatic event of any type, but most especially a violent dangerous one, it is very normal to have all sorts of symptoms and feelings as your brain tries to process what happened.  What often helps is be around others who care, and let yourself tell the part of the story that begins with, “I knew I was safe when …”.  Starting from that point, and returning to that point, is very important because it reminds your brain that you are now safe.  You may find that telling the scarier parts of the story is upsetting, or “flood” you with emotion.  If that’s true, please don’t keep repeating it.  Honor your reactions, so that your mind and body can settle down and heal. Continue Reading…

Talking to your kids about Las Vegas

This has been a hard month for many people in other parts of the country. This weekend’s shooting incident in Las Vegas may strike closer to home for many, as people check in with friends and family to see who was at the concert and how they fared.

In my practice, I am hearing that many children are hearing lots of talk and discussion today, as the news filters down, and it is making some of them very anxious. In fact, it may be making you anxious as well. Continue Reading…

New group for struggling teens or young adults

Groups for struggling teens or young adults Simi Valley Moorpark
If you know a young adult or teen who is having difficulties, please call Jeff Kropp, LMFT # 40226, at Families Counseling, 805-583-3976, x 777. Individual, group, family and parent counseling is available.

Parents Should Trust Their Instincts

ReadingAs a child psychologist for almost twenty years I have interviewed hundreds of parents when I am in the process of conducting psychological evaluations of their children.  Most of them have told me that they had a concern or gut feeling that their child was not developing normally when the child was one or two years old, sometimes younger.  When they discussed these concerns with their pediatrician they were often told “Don’t worry.  Every child develops differently” or “Your child will catch up.”  Occasionally, they were ridiculed by the pediatrician and told that they worry too much.  In fact, many parents have shared comments from their pediatricians that made it clear that the doctor did not have an accurate understanding of normal child development. Continue Reading…

We Choose Our Hard

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originally posted here by Melissa Hartwig, Founder of Whole30

WE CHOOSE OUR HARD. Anyone who has been through a traumatic experience knows the dread associated with processing that event. In the aftermath, we think the idea of talking about it, replaying it, “working through it” sounds like torture. No thank you. It sucked bad enough the first time. Why force ourselves to relive it over and over again?

The thing is, we choose our hard. Opening the box. Unpacking what’s in it. Dragging it into the light. Looking straight at it. Turning it over. Holding it up over our heads for other people to see. Accepting it. Maybe carrying it around for a while. Making the choice to put it down. Forgiving. Okay. Yes. That is hard.

But so is what we do instead. Continue Reading…