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It pays to clean off my desk.  I found a great post on how to deal with those people who drive us all crazy — passive/aggressive people.  And it even points out that the passive-aggressive person isn’t getting their needs met, either. It gives a nice list of passive-aggressive behaviors: Sarcasm The silent treatment Withholding… Read More

Recently Time Magazine, in its April 11 issue, published a thought-provoking article on the effects viewing pornography can have on sexual performance and desire in young men.  It may not come as a surprise that viewing pornography online can quickly turn into an addiction, and that it an create a very unrealistic and distorted view… Read More

14 Ways to Create the Best Relationship of Your Life I wish I had written this article , but at least second best is finding it and posting about it.  Dr. Sue Johnson, a world-renowned trainer of couples’ therapists and author of several books, wrote a guest post and gave some wonderful ideas about how… Read More

As part of our “Best of Families Counseling” series, we are featuring a post by Shannon Strull, M.A., L.M.F.T. (#40474), titled “Couples Communication 101”.    In it she gives some great tips for couples that will help right away… Read More

I’ve been waiting for New Year’s Day for quite some time, I realize. 2012 has been a rough one in multiple ways, for my family and for so many others, and I know I’ve been waiting for the calendar to flip over. Surely 2013 will be better, I’ve thought. But 2012 was also full of… Read More

Nobody likes to argue, but if we need to have a argument, it certainly helps to have some conflict resolution skills.  Everyone can benefit from learning how to “fight fair” — couples, family members, co-workers — all of us can benefit from better skills. The link for “Fighting Fair to Resolve Conflict” is from The… Read More

I found some great hints in my copy of the Psychotherapy Networker by Steven Stosny, Ph.D.,  who works with couples and other with relationship problems.  You can read more about his programs at CompassionPower.  I’m going to quote very liberally from what he wrote, because it is well-done and so concise. He asks couples to… Read More

Marriages, like all relationships, and like all living things, need to be nurtured. When we get stressed, we may forget to do and say the things that help our spouses feel connected to us. Some simple concepts, practiced regularly, can really make a difference. John Gottman, a well-known researcher and author on the topic of… Read More

My clients are always more on top of popular books and movies that I am, so I hear about some great ones, but it takes me awhile to get to them. Several clients in the last couple of months have told be about Fireproof. My husband and I finally watched this last night, and we… Read More

Here is a guest piece, written by licensed marriage and family therapist Shannon Strull. You can learn more about her by visiting Shannon’s page on our website. I believe relationships are our richest resource for happiness and spiritual growth. I believe it is in relation to others that we discover who we are. We begin… Read More

Today a client came in and told me about a funny video clip on YouTube about how men and women’s brains function differently. If you click on this post’s title, you can see it… it runs about 10 minutes.Turns out it’s by a pastor named Mark Gungor, who speaks on Laugh Your Way to a… Read More