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Here in Ventura County, people have been through a lot.  The terrible shooting at Borderline, immediately followed the Woolsey and Hills fires; so much trauma, so much loss, so much grief, so much sadness.  And of course, many people have had trauma in their lives for a long time, well before these incidents.  With trauma… Read more

This has been a hard month for many people in other parts of the country. This weekend’s shooting incident in Las Vegas may strike closer to home for many, as people check in with friends and family to see who was at the concert and how they fared. In my practice, I am hearing that… Read more

Fall is definitely here, and with it the beginning of the holiday season.  Thanksgiving is just around the corner, and next comes Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s.  For some of us, this is a time of gratitude, joy and happy anticipation, and that’s wonderful. But for some, the holiday season is very difficult.  It may be… Read more

The Compassionate Friends is a wonderful support group for families who have lost a child.  Every year they host a beautiful candle-lighting ceremony on the 2nd Sunday in December.  For more information on this year’s ceremony at Ascension Lutheran Church in Thousand Oaks on Dec. 14, please see their flyer on their Ventura County website… Read more

Today is the 41st anniversary of the Supreme Court’s historic Roe vs. Wade decision.  Regardless of how you feel about the abortion issue, it is important to acknowledge that at least  some women experience symptoms very similar to PTSD.  These symptoms may surface immediately afterwards, or not emerge until years later, perhaps with a triggering… Read more

Here is a great post by a friend on how we never really know when “the last goodbye” might be http://www.widowsvoice-sslf.blogspot.com/2013/05/no-goodbye.html… Read more

Here is a great website, and most especially a post from someone who’s been through it. http://widowsvoice-sslf.blogspot.com/2013/03/for-times-that-you-want-to-stop.html… Read more

Other than the loss of a child, there is nothing more devastating than the loss of one’s spouse.  It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, married long-term or briefly, happily or with rocky spots.  It is a loss that punches you in the gut, hollows out your heart, and leaves you wondering how… Read more

Grief is the normal response we all have to the loss of a loved one.  It is our way of learning to gradually let go, and it takes time.  There is no “right way” to grieve, and no timetable that applies to everyone.  Grief is a very individual process. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in… Read more

Grieving the loss of a loved one, especially a spouse, is never easy.  This time of year is often the hardest, and it’s easy to believe that you are all alone.  Widow’s Voice is a wonderful blog that will help a lot with that feeling of being alone.  Started by Michele Hernandez  after the sudden… Read more

Sunday marks the 10th anniversary of 9-11.    For many of our young people, September 11, 2001 was the first, but probably not the last, event that evokes the question, “Where were you when …?”  Living on the West Coast, I remember being out for an early morning run.  My husband and I ran different routes… Read more

If you have recently lost your spouse to death, first, our condolences. There are so many things to think about, and it is hard to keep things straight. Our friends at Soaring Spiriits Life Foundation offer many resouces for those who widowed, either recently or long-term. Here is a link to a checklist of things… Read more

Grief is difficult at any time, and most especially around the holidays.  We’ve written about this previously, and in that post you’ll find some good links for getting through this tough time of year. Often people who have lost siblings feel a little left out.  There are many support groups for widows and widowers, or… Read more

Please take a look at my friend Michele’s posting on www.wowowow.com. It’s one of several inspirational stories she has written, following the sudden death of her husband Phil in 2005. She has gone on to start a website for who are looking for others with whom to share their journey, called WidowsBond.com . And from… Read more

Grieving the loss of a loved one is always hard. Special times like anniversary dates, family milestones, and especially the holiday season are even tougher, especially during the first few years. This year, rather than write our own piece, we’ve gathered together some information from other websites that we think will help. Grieving during the… Read more

Country singer Tim McGraw has a great song called “Live Like You Were Dying”. The lyrics are great, and you can read them here if you want to; better yet, find the song and listen to it. We all know we’re going to die “someday”, and we really don’t like to think about it much… Read more