I’ve been a therapist for a long time, and still love every minute of it (well, except for paperwork, but that’s a different story). It suits my nature to help people. I help by listening, for what is said and what isn’t said, and by spending time thinking about how to help a person make new connections, heal old wounds, release old baggage, and in general keep growing as they move through their life with family, friends, work, and other important relationships.
As I think back, and ahead for for myself, I think a big skill we all have to learn is “how to adjust”. Many wise people have said in different ways that nothing ever stays the same, and it’s really true, isn’t it. Some of us move very easily from one phase of life to the next, and some of us, myself included, find some adjustments harder than others.
I’m currently sitting at a point in life where I have lots to look back on, and plenty (I think!) to look forward to. I’m also now watching my grown children do some of the same, and that’s quite interesting. And in interacting with these most wonderful little people who are my grandchildren, I’m seeing children at the very beginning of their lives, and seeing how they grow and change, literally day by day. Because I’m not the parent and see them every few weeks for long weekend, I get to really experience those changes in a different way than when I was the parent.
All in all, I feel I’m in a very interesting stage of life. I’m acutely aware that if I want things to stay the same (what happened to my muscle tone?!?), I’m going to be very disappointed, which is bad enough. Worse, I’ll miss what is actually going on.
It occurs to me that this is true for all of us, at every stage of life. If we spend too much time looking forward, we miss the present. If we spend too much time looking backward, we miss the present. If we miss the present, we’re going to have regrets and that will make us look backward too. Not a good cycle.
The next few blog posts are going to be about adjusting. I don’t know if they’re going to follow a developmental order, or maybe just evolve in the order that comes to mind as I write them. If you’re interested, please follow them, subscribe, like us on Facebook, or just check this space every so often. It should be interesting. I’d love to hear your thoughts as well.