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Children are typically introduced to early reading skills in kindergarten.  By the end of this school year, children are expected to know a minimum number of sight words and have mastered letter recognition and phonics sounds.  If your child has not achieved these basic skills by the middle of first grade, then they often have… Read More

In September 2006 (nearly 10 years ago) I presented a seminar to the Conejo Valley Mental Health Professionals Association at the Sherwood Country Club. A few weeks later an article appeared in the Acorn newspaper entitled “Demystifying Sensory Dysfunction” that summarized the seminar. The article pointed out how children, teens and even adults may have this… Read More

The Family Research Council has a very sobering article online from 2012 that surveys the research about the various effects of divorce on children. It is definitely worth a read. You can go directly to the post at www.tiny.cc/childrenofdivorce . The article just reinforces what we already know, that divorce is something to be avoided… Read More

One of my favorite columnists in the Ventura County Star is Bill Tinsley.  He writes great columns on current events and issues from a faith perspective.  For a heartwarming Father’s Day gift to the dads in your life, read and share this one on how a father gives to his children.  I think you’ll love… Read More

I just saw the best Super Bowl ad ever. It just shows how special dads are. Take a look and see what you think. http://youtu.be/108GQVlfwy8… Read More

So I was cleaning off my work desk at home, and came across an article I had clipped to blog about.  Now the sad part is it’s from 2010, so that might tell you something about the depth of the stacks on my desk.  But the great part is that the information is just as… Read More

The Compassionate Friends is a wonderful support group for families who have lost a child.  Every year they host a beautiful candle-lighting ceremony on the 2nd Sunday in December.  For more information on this year’s ceremony at Ascension Lutheran Church in Thousand Oaks on Dec. 14, please see their flyer on their Ventura County website… Read More

If you need some help with parenting, it’s always great to read a good book. There’s one that I’ve recommended for years, called “1-2-3 Magic” by Thomas Phelan. It basically teaches parents how to apply natural and logical consequences in a consistent, effective manner. Many times, we parents repeat ourselves and then yell, basically teaching… Read More

I was going to write a post about how much fathers matter, in honor of Father’s Day.  Instead I found a great one, published recently in the New York post, called “Do fathers matter?  A connection that’s deeper than we realize”.   It’s so important these to recognize that, even though many people may not be… Read More

I was just listening to one of my favorite talk show hosts, Dennis Prager, and he had a caller remind him that many years ago he had said that we should all remember that when we are dealing with our children, we are raising future adults.  The caller said that she and her husband had… Read More

Does your child seem to over-react to sensory stimuli?  Do you find yourself “walking on eggshells” to avoid melt-downs?  You’ll want to read about “Sensory Integration Dysfunction” by psychologist Shiro Torquato, Ph.D. (#PSY14840).  This is part of our “Best of Families Counseling” series, and if it applies to your child, you’ll be glad to have… Read More

We are doing a “Best of Families Counseling” series in our blog this week.  We’ll be featuring posts by four of the therapists who practice here. Today’s “Best of” post is by Maureen Kaye, M.A., L.M.F.T. (#44834), and is titled “What is Play Therapy?”  It’s a great tool not just for children, but also for… Read More

This morning  a columnist in our local paper published a story on how beautiful it is to  watch his adult children become parents.  It is one of the most touching things I’ve read in a long time.  Every new life in this world is a blessing, no matter the circumstances.  I believe it is up… Read More

Today’s Ventura County Star as a great article called Feeling Fear Now … (Or Later?).  It’s based on a recently released study from the Mayo Clinic that concludes that children who avoid anxiety producing situations end up more anxious later on.  What’s your opinion… Read More

It’s always been tough to be a parent, but it seems that it’s getting harder and harder to do what’s good for kids in our “me-first” culture. Parenthood necessarily means a transition out of the self-orientation of the teenage years and young adulthood, and that in itself is sometimes tough. It means sacrificing our own… Read More

Here is an excellent post on the 12 Most Powerful Words for Parents. Take a look, and let us know what you think. Powerful… Read More

Awhile back, I came across a great article by Nathaniel Reade in Southwest’s Spirit Magazine.  It was talking about how Dr. Kevin Nugent had been using a new procedure called Newborn Behavioral Observations, or NBO.  Basically, it is an offshoot of T. Berry Brazelton’s work with newborns, helping parents to learn about their particular baby’s… Read More

Here are 2 websites that are fun in different ways, for kids.  One you’ll probably visit over and over again, if you like to do fun things in the kitchen.  It’s called Kitchen Fun with My 3 Sons, and is full of fun ideas to try with your children. The other is one of the… Read More

Recently I ran across an article in the Los Angeles Times that may be of interest if you have a child who has suddenly shown symptoms of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) or tics.  It’s important to state that although the article explores possible connections between strep throat infections and the sudden onset of OCD symptoms… Read More

One of the hardest parts about being deployed in the military is being away from one’s children. It’s tough on the soldier, tough on the spouse, and especially tough on the kids. Leave it to technology to find a way to help! Last November, I read a great article in Parade Magazine called “Wish You… Read More

Career success and learning disabilities are not mutually exclusive. In fact, there are some extremely success people who credit their very severe learning disabilities with helping them to become excellent learners and very creative thinkers. Don’t believe it? Take a look at this article in the February 2011 issue of Psychology Today The print article… Read More

There’s a new long-term study out from Timothy Monk of the University of Pittsburgh that concludes that babies who have consistent wake and sleep times, play periods, and regular intervals between meals, will have less anxiety about new situations and environments as they get older.  He studied 59  1-month old babies, and followed them for… Read More

Help Your Child Succeed in School,and in Life! Chi1d-Parent-Relationship (C-P-R) Training for Parents of  3-to-9-Year Olds.  A strong parent-child relationship is the foundation for your child’s future success. However, the demands of parenting often leave parents feeling frustrated, out-of-control, and with little time to focus on relationship quality. Leonore Schuetz, MS, Licensed Marriage Family Therapist… Read More

If you think the term bully refers only to the “mean kid” at school, think again. These days, bullying has risen to a whole new level, thanks to the internet, cell phones, and our whole “wired-in” mentality. Because words spread like wildfire over the internet, cyber-bullying is a far more damaging phenomenon than that “mean… Read More

The devastation in Haiti is almost too much to comprehend.  As with so many disasters, including the Indonesia’s tsunami in 2004, and our own attack of 9/11/2001, the endless news coverage can be quite traumatic for children. Here is an excellent article, posted on Psychology Today, on how to help your children cope.  Be sure… Read More