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You may have heard about the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, because the book has been around since 2009, but do you know what they are?  Here is a brief synopsis: Words of Affirmation — actions are nice, but some people really need to hear the words too Quality Time — full attention counts… Read more

It pays to clean off my desk.  I found a great post on how to deal with those people who drive us all crazy — passive/aggressive people.  And it even points out that the passive-aggressive person isn’t getting their needs met, either. It gives a nice list of passive-aggressive behaviors: Sarcasm The silent treatment Withholding… Read more

As part of our “Best of Families Counseling” series, we are featuring a post by Shannon Strull, M.A., L.M.F.T. (#40474), titled “Couples Communication 101”.    In it she gives some great tips for couples that will help right away… Read more

Here’s a great letter from Annie’s Mailbox (successor to Ann Landers) from a man who learned what’s important in marriage. Great advice for all of us, just in time for Valentine’s Day. And for me, just in time for Lent, when the most productive fasting is to fast from what comes out of my mouth… Read more

As a new school year begins, here is a truly excellent review by Cari Thompson from momiforward.com of some great concepts that help make (and keep) a marriage healthy. There are wonderful pointers in this article about communication, anger, resolving conflict, intimacy, and even sleep! Pay close attention to the section on “The 5 Love… Read more

Nobody likes to argue, but if we need to have a argument, it certainly helps to have some conflict resolution skills.  Everyone can benefit from learning how to “fight fair” — couples, family members, co-workers — all of us can benefit from better skills. The link for “Fighting Fair to Resolve Conflict” is from The… Read more

Marriages, like all relationships, and like all living things, need to be nurtured. When we get stressed, we may forget to do and say the things that help our spouses feel connected to us. Some simple concepts, practiced regularly, can really make a difference. John Gottman, a well-known researcher and author on the topic of… Read more

Today a client came in and told me about a funny video clip on YouTube about how men and women’s brains function differently. If you click on this post’s title, you can see it… it runs about 10 minutes.Turns out it’s by a pastor named Mark Gungor, who speaks on Laugh Your Way to a… Read more