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Marriage and Relationships

You may have heard about the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, because the book has been around since 2009, but do you know what they are?  Here is a brief synopsis: Words of Affirmation — actions are nice, but some people really need to hear the words too Quality Time — full attention counts… Read more

Sue Johnson is a researcher and author in the field of couples’ therapy, and the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.  She is very well regarded by professionals, and is also the author of “Hold Me Tight”, a great book for couples seeking to deepen their emotional connection. In a recent Psychology Today article, she… Read more

Sometimes it just seems to happen by luck, and other times it seems like it will never happen. It is certainly a topic that gets discussed often in a therapist’s office: how will I meet the right person to marry? And, how will I know if that person is right for me? How to meet… Read more

Here’s a great letter from Annie’s Mailbox (successor to Ann Landers) from a man who learned what’s important in marriage. Great advice for all of us, just in time for Valentine’s Day. And for me, just in time for Lent, when the most productive fasting is to fast from what comes out of my mouth… Read more

As a new school year begins, here is a truly excellent review by Cari Thompson from momiforward.com of some great concepts that help make (and keep) a marriage healthy. There are wonderful pointers in this article about communication, anger, resolving conflict, intimacy, and even sleep! Pay close attention to the section on “The 5 Love… Read more

I found some great hints in my copy of the Psychotherapy Networker by Steven Stosny, Ph.D.,  who works with couples and other with relationship problems.  You can read more about his programs at CompassionPower.  I’m going to quote very liberally from what he wrote, because it is well-done and so concise. He asks couples to… Read more

I love it when clients recommend books! There is nothing like someone who has experienced a situation to recognize good advice when they see it. So here is a recommendation for women who are step-mothers. I haven’t yet read it myself, but the reviews on Amazon from actual readers are strongly positive. As of today… Read more

Marriages, like all relationships, and like all living things, need to be nurtured. When we get stressed, we may forget to do and say the things that help our spouses feel connected to us. Some simple concepts, practiced regularly, can really make a difference. John Gottman, a well-known researcher and author on the topic of… Read more

My clients are always more on top of popular books and movies that I am, so I hear about some great ones, but it takes me awhile to get to them. Several clients in the last couple of months have told be about Fireproof. My husband and I finally watched this last night, and we… Read more

Here is a guest piece, written by licensed marriage and family therapist Shannon Strull. You can learn more about her by visiting Shannon’s page on our website. I believe relationships are our richest resource for happiness and spiritual growth. I believe it is in relation to others that we discover who we are. We begin… Read more

Today a client came in and told me about a funny video clip on YouTube about how men and women’s brains function differently. If you click on this post’s title, you can see it… it runs about 10 minutes.Turns out it’s by a pastor named Mark Gungor, who speaks on Laugh Your Way to a… Read more