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//embedr.flickr.com/assets/client-code.jsThere are so many things we expect to just know how to do, but turn out to be not so simple. Learning how to be married is one of them. And, like parenthood, our marriages change over time, so we have to learn over and over again how to be married to our spouses. If… Read more

You may have heard about the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, because the book has been around since 2009, but do you know what they are?  Here is a brief synopsis: Words of Affirmation — actions are nice, but some people really need to hear the words too Quality Time — full attention counts… Read more

Most therapists find that working with couples can be very difficult.  There’s often a lot of emotion in the room, and a lot of issues from the past that arise.   That’s one reason that I find it so satisfying.  When I can help two people recognize how their hurts are impacting the relationship, and… Read more

If you’ve read my posts over the years, then you know that a) I love my work and b) I take it very seriously. People who call my office literally entrust their treasures to me…their own emotional health, that of their children, and perhaps most importantly, the health of their marriage. I think marital counseling… Read more

14 Ways to Create the Best Relationship of Your Life I wish I had written this article , but at least second best is finding it and posting about it.  Dr. Sue Johnson, a world-renowned trainer of couples’ therapists and author of several books, wrote a guest post and gave some wonderful ideas about how… Read more

There’s a great internet resource for material on how to improve your marriage at the website SmartMarriages.com.  It is definitely worth your time to take a look.  There is info for couples thinking about marriage, like premarital questionnaires and wedding sermons.  You’ll find tons of resources for skills on how to improve your marriage, and… Read more

What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make your special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into relationships: The 5 Love Languages®, Dr. Gary Chapman’s New York Times… Read more

As part of our “Best of Families Counseling” series, we are featuring a post by Shannon Strull, M.A., L.M.F.T. (#40474), titled “Couples Communication 101”.    In it she gives some great tips for couples that will help right away… Read more

Sue Johnson is a researcher and author in the field of couples’ therapy, and the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.  She is very well regarded by professionals, and is also the author of “Hold Me Tight”, a great book for couples seeking to deepen their emotional connection. In a recent Psychology Today article, she… Read more

Here’s a great column on how one couple is trying to solve the age-old problem of feeling “taken for granted”. Take a look and see what you think.  … Read more

More Magazine recently published an article entitled “Married, with Illness“.  It is full of examples of how husband and wives cope when one, or both, have a severe chronic illness.  Not surprisingly, this takes a tremendous toll on a marriage.  According to the article, 75% of such marriages end in divorce.  This is especially tragic… Read more