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//embedr.flickr.com/assets/client-code.jsThe older I get, the more I’m forced to admit that optimum health only happens with a certain amount of effort. Good nourishment and some amount of putting the body through its paces is required to obtain healthy functioning. The same is true for families. Dolores Curran, in Traits of a Healthy Family (1983), outlined… Read more

If you know a young adult or teen who is having difficulties, please call Jeff Kropp, LMFT # 40226, at Families Counseling, 805-583-3976, x 777. Individual, group, family and parent counseling is available… Read more

“From the moment he was born I knew he would be more difficult than my other children.”  “She cried almost non-stop for the first two years.”  “He will only eat chicken nuggets and refuses to try any new foods.”  “Getting dressed in the morning is always a battle, because she cries and complains that her… Read more

The Family Research Council has a very sobering article online from 2012 that surveys the research about the various effects of divorce on children. It is definitely worth a read. You can go directly to the post at www.tiny.cc/childrenofdivorce . The article just reinforces what we already know, that divorce is something to be avoided… Read more

One of my favorite columnists in the Ventura County Star is Bill Tinsley.  He writes great columns on current events and issues from a faith perspective.  For a heartwarming Father’s Day gift to the dads in your life, read and share this one on how a father gives to his children.  I think you’ll love… Read more

This article made me glad my kids are grown and on their own, past those difficult teenage years.  If yours aren’t yet, you will definitely want to read this… Read more

Below you’ll find a link to a great article that summarizes Dr. Dan Siegel’s new book on understanding teen behavior, entitled “Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain”.    He always writes great books that explain how our brains influence our development and behavior, and this one is no exception. The article, entitled… Read more

So I was cleaning off my work desk at home, and came across an article I had clipped to blog about.  Now the sad part is it’s from 2010, so that might tell you something about the depth of the stacks on my desk.  But the great part is that the information is just as… Read more

If you need some help with parenting, it’s always great to read a good book. There’s one that I’ve recommended for years, called “1-2-3 Magic” by Thomas Phelan. It basically teaches parents how to apply natural and logical consequences in a consistent, effective manner. Many times, we parents repeat ourselves and then yell, basically teaching… Read more

I was going to write a post about how much fathers matter, in honor of Father’s Day.  Instead I found a great one, published recently in the New York post, called “Do fathers matter?  A connection that’s deeper than we realize”.   It’s so important these to recognize that, even though many people may not be… Read more

I was just listening to one of my favorite talk show hosts, Dennis Prager, and he had a caller remind him that many years ago he had said that we should all remember that when we are dealing with our children, we are raising future adults.  The caller said that she and her husband had… Read more

Does your child seem to over-react to sensory stimuli?  Do you find yourself “walking on eggshells” to avoid melt-downs?  You’ll want to read about “Sensory Integration Dysfunction” by psychologist Shiro Torquato, Ph.D. (#PSY14840).  This is part of our “Best of Families Counseling” series, and if it applies to your child, you’ll be glad to have… Read more

This morning  a columnist in our local paper published a story on how beautiful it is to  watch his adult children become parents.  It is one of the most touching things I’ve read in a long time.  Every new life in this world is a blessing, no matter the circumstances.  I believe it is up… Read more

Here’s a great opportunity — Dr. Marcy Axness is offering a free webinar on “Transforming Parenting from Stressed Out to Sane and Centered” .  Take a look, and give yourself a treat by signing up.  Click here to see the entire post. *** This post is your invitation to an empowering FREE webinar next Wednesday… Read more

Today’s Ventura County Star as a great article called Feeling Fear Now … (Or Later?).  It’s based on a recently released study from the Mayo Clinic that concludes that children who avoid anxiety producing situations end up more anxious later on.  What’s your opinion… Read more

It’s always been tough to be a parent, but it seems that it’s getting harder and harder to do what’s good for kids in our “me-first” culture. Parenthood necessarily means a transition out of the self-orientation of the teenage years and young adulthood, and that in itself is sometimes tough. It means sacrificing our own… Read more

Here is an excellent post on the 12 Most Powerful Words for Parents. Take a look, and let us know what you think. Powerful… Read more

Awhile back, I came across a great article by Nathaniel Reade in Southwest’s Spirit Magazine.  It was talking about how Dr. Kevin Nugent had been using a new procedure called Newborn Behavioral Observations, or NBO.  Basically, it is an offshoot of T. Berry Brazelton’s work with newborns, helping parents to learn about their particular baby’s… Read more

I saw this in several places, and thought it important enough to post a link from Yahoo. If you have teenage children, or know any, please read this and pass it on!  Apparently there is a new synthetic hallucinogenic out there call 2C-1 or “Smiles”.  From user accounts it sounds very frightening, and there are also… Read more

It seems that I hear from more and more teens who have great difficulty falling asleep until 1, 2 or 3 am in the morning, which of course then disrupts their school attendance and performance.  I ask them all the obvious questions.  How’s your diet, especially regarding sugar and caffeine?  Do you get some regular… Read more

Here is a post by Shiro Perera Torquato, Ph.D. on teens, grades and motivation Many parents believe that they can “motivate” their teenager to earn better grades in school by taking away things and activities they enjoy.  For example, a parent might restrict the privileges of watching TV, playing video games, and using a computer… Read more

Hello parents ! Most of you have just now sent your students off the their new school year. A few are waiting into after Labor Day. Either easy, we can all use a chance to take a look at ideas for how to make this school year even better than the first. Here’s a great… Read more

If you need help with parenting skills, here’s great news!  The Simi Valley Police Department is presenting a 10 week series on Tuesday nights from 6:30 – 9:30 pm.  The program is run  through the well-regarded group The Parent Project, and promises “concrete answers for every question you ask”. To register or ask questions, please… Read more

Nobody likes to argue, but if we need to have a argument, it certainly helps to have some conflict resolution skills.  Everyone can benefit from learning how to “fight fair” — couples, family members, co-workers — all of us can benefit from better skills. The link for “Fighting Fair to Resolve Conflict” is from The… Read more

Here are 2 websites that are fun in different ways, for kids.  One you’ll probably visit over and over again, if you like to do fun things in the kitchen.  It’s called Kitchen Fun with My 3 Sons, and is full of fun ideas to try with your children. The other is one of the… Read more