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Talking to your kids about Las Vegas

This has been a hard month for many people in other parts of the country. This weekend’s shooting incident in Las Vegas may strike closer to home for many, as people check in with friends and family to see who was at the concert and how they fared.

In my practice, I am hearing that many children are hearing lots of talk and discussion today, as the news filters down, and it is making some of them very anxious. In fact, it may be making you anxious as well. Making choices about how much information and what sorts of information you can absorb is important to try to avoid what’s called “vicarious traumatization”. And if you are a parent of a child or teen at home, you may appreciate some ideas from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists on how to talk with your children. This is from their blog after the shooting in Orlando, Florida last year.  Following is another link to a great resource about children/teens and trauma.

Tips for Parenting During Times of Crisis

  • Model calm and control. Reassure children that they are safe and so are the other important adults in their lives.
  • Make time to talk with your children about crisis events. Take some time and determine what you wish to say. This is especially true since new information will unfold each day. Provide brief, accurate, and age appropriate information. Don’t dwell on the scale or scope of the tragedy, particularly with young children.
  • Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate. Early elementary school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that their lives will not change. Upper elementary school children will be more vocal in asking questions about their safety and what is being done. They may need assistance separating reality from fantasy.
  • Understand what your child is asking. Difficult questions that children ask may be spurred by curiosity or feelings. Rather than plunging into an immediate answer, learn what motivates the question. Ask, “What made you think of that?” or “What ideas do you have?” Once the meaning of a question is known, it is easier to answer effectively.
  • There may be questions we cannot answer. Rather than invent a response, it is more helpful to say “I don’t know,” or “I’ll try to find out.”
  • Acknowledge, validate, and accept your child’s feelings. He or she may be feeling confused, frightened, or even excited. Listen calmly and reassuringly as they express their thoughts and feelings.
  • Limit the amount of your child’s television viewing of these events. If they must watch, watch with them for a brief time; then turn the set off. Young children should not be allowed to watch tv coverage of the event, as they are too young to process what they are seeing and hearing.
  • Maintain a “normal” routine. To the extent possible stick to your family’s normal routine for dinner, homework, chores, bedtime, etc. Children feel secure when routines are calmly followed.
  • Spend extra time reading or playing quiet games with your children before bed without the television or news radio on. These activities are calming, foster a sense of closeness and security, and reinforce a sense of normalcy.

Also, please take a look here for a tremendous resource from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network  regarding children, teens, and trauma

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