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Passionate Marriage : Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships. David Schnarch, PhD.

Written by a well-respected researcher in relationships and sexuality, this very practical, sometimes erotic book will help couples who want to improve their sexual relationship and are not afraid to remove blocks to intimacy. The book makes it very clear that one cannot happen without the other, and that the journey a couples makes in doing this is challenging and fascinating.

The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts. Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee.
The primary author has studied divorcing families for over 20 years, and now turns her attention to what helps form good marriages, marriages that last over time. The authors look at the natural stages a marriage goes through, and the psychological tasks that spouses must undertake in order to succeed in marriage.

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts : Seven Questions to Ask Before (And After You Marry). Dr. Les Parrott.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: and How You Can Make Yours Last. John Gottman, PhD.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver

Well-researched and down to earth, with many practical tips for helping couples solve the problems they can, and live with the ones they cannot solve.

The Ultimate Marriage Builder: A Do-It-Yourself Encounter Weekend for You and Your Mate.. Dave and Claudia Arp

Next time you get away for the weekend, here are some ideas for how to facilitate deeper communication on your own together. Packed with exercises and discussion starters to make your own "marriage encounter" weekend.

The Couple's Journey: Intimacy as a Path to Wholeness. Susan Campbell, Ph.D.

Another look at how the emotional work done between partners in relationships leads to deeper growth as individuals. Dr. Campbell outlines five stages of developing intimacy, and offers self-help exercises for couples at each stage.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Melba Colgrove PhD, Harold H. Bloomfield MD, and Peter McWilliams

A helpful book which provides tools and perspective when faced with a loss.




Men are from Mars  The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.  Gary Chapman
What makes you feel loved?  What makes your spouse feel loved?  Chapman says that there are five primary ways that we experience love: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.  The book discusses how to identify your style, and your partner's.  Chapman has several other titles, including one each for parents of children and  teenagers.



Men are from Mars Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. John Gray, Ph.D.
Mars together Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love. John Gray, Ph.D.
Just two of what is now a multitude of books regarding communication in relationships! Still, they contain some useful concepts about how men and women really are different, and how our different assumptions and expectations can really muddle up our communication. If communicating with your spouse seems like speaking a foreign language sometimes, then these books can help you learn to translate and become fluent!

You Just Don't Understand. Deborah Tannen, Ph.D.

Again, communication differences in style between men and women, this time addressed in a more scholarly, academic style.

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships. Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

Socialized to believe that anger "isn't nice" and is always hurtful, women often have trouble getting angry, and in using it constructively. This book states that anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. It gives women tools for how to use anger as tool for change in relationships.

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships. Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

Intimacy can be challenged by too much distance, too much intensity, or too much pain. The author discusses ways to develop a more solid sense of self and the ability to truly connect with others.


Mom's House, Dad's House : A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Melba Colgrove PhD, Harold H. Bloomfield MD, and Peter McWilliams

A helpful book which provides tools and perspective when faced with a loss.


The Survival Guide to Step-Parenting. Jim Stokes

Positive Discipline for Blended Families: Nurturing Harmony, Respect, and Unity in Your New Stepfamily (Positive Discipline Library). Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, H. Stephen Glenn

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