Deborah Tucker, M.A., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#17142)

Deborah Tucker counseling Simi

Hello.  Since you're visiting this website, it may be that you are thinking of starting therapy.  There is a lot of information about therapy, marriage counseling and all sorts of practical issues in our "What is Therapy?" section, so here let me tell you a little bit about me and how I work with clients.

I've been in practice for over 30 years, and really enjoy my work with clients.  It's an honor to join people on their personal journey, and to be a part of the important changes they make during that time.  The best summary of my work is this:  I help people have better relationships -- with their families, with their spouse, and with themselves.

I work primarily with individual adults and teens, and with couples.  If you are struggling with depression, anxiety, a sense of feeling stuck, or just want to change some unproductive patterns in your life and your relationships, chances are we will work well together.  At our first session, we will talk about what is happening in your life,  to determine what your strengths are, what is not working, and what you want to be different.

My style of working varies depending on what you want and need. For example,  I help couples and families improve their relationships by teaching them to express and understand the "buttons" that get pushed when we are dealing with our loved ones.  My commitment to marriages is very strong, and my experience is that any couple who willing to come to marriage or relationship counseling has a strong likelihood of success. 

If you are coming to therapy on your own, you may be wanting to change current patterns that don't work, or perhaps to heal pain from the past.   There are many "styles" of therapy available to help people.  For example, I have completed specialized training in EMDR and hypnosis.   If you have experienced emotional, physical or sexual abuse, you may want to read more about EMDR, a highly effective technique for trauma from childhood and also from upsetting experiences like car accidents and robberies. Hypnotherapy can be very helpful for stress management, changing behavior habits, and coping with chronic medical problems. 

These are just two possibilities of methods we can use to work together to achieve the changes that you want.   I am very experienced, and have many tools and methods of counseling available, to match nearly everyone's personal needs.  If you've been to therapy before, I'll be asking you what worked for you and what didn't.  In this way we will ensure that you accomplish what you want to from our time together.

If you're wondering about my background, I have a B.A. in psychology and an M.A. in Marriage, Family and Child Counseling.  I was very happily married over 30 years before being widowed, and have raised two "thirty-something" sons.  I am a practicing Christian, a member of St. Rose of Lima Catholic Church here in Simi, and am honored that many of my referrals come a variety of local pastors of several denominations. 

I offer appointments Monday through Thursday between 9 a.m. and 6 p.m. My fee is $150 per 50 minute hour. I do have a few slots available at a slightly lower rate when there is financial need, so please feel free to ask. I am not on any insurance panels, but if you like, I am able to bill your PPO insurance on an out-of-network basis, to help you get reimbursed. Please feel free to ask me about any of these logistical issues, to see what we can work out.

When you are ready, please feel free to contact me by phone at 805-583-3976 x 33,  and we can discuss your situation more personally.  If you like, please take a look at some of my brochures, and take a look at our offices.  You can also view a list of my professional organization memberships. If you prefer, you may contact me via email

Deborah Tucker, M.A. Licensed marriage and family therapist (MFT #17142)

P.S. If you'd like to read some thoughts about how I feel about my work, please take a look at this post from our blog, on Why I Am (Still) a Therapist. If you enjoy it, please feel free to comment!

Using email

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